Happy First Birthday Kaden!

An event so big that I thought it warranted its very own blog. Even if I am several months behind in writing the blog.

On March 11, 2010 our sweet baby boy came in to the world. And it was on this day in 2011 that family and friends starting rolling in to town to help us celebrate the one year mark of this amazing event....Kaden's First Birthday! Some people celebrate their Birthday in one day. In our family we like to celebrate Birthdays over the course of several days.

The festivities kicked off on Friday, with Kaden wearing his official, custom made Birthday Boy t-shirt and packing 2 dozen (peanut free, sealed package) cupcakes for his birthday celebration with his daycare friends. After a fun day at "school" we picked him up early and brought him home to open birthday gifts from Mommy and Daddy. He was headed out the front door on his shiny new firetruck ride on toy, when the first set of enthusiastic family members arrived. Granny, Pa, Rhea and Aunt Shaunna were first on the scene to kick off Birthday Weekend 2011. Grandma Karen and Grandpa Tim arrived from Alabama not too far behind. We all enjoyed a delicious dinner of Kaden's favorite - Meatloaf, Mashed Potatoes and Green Beans. Dinner was rounded out with some home made chocolate chip cookies and of course a stream of birthday presents.

Much like Christmas, Kaden still hasn't found his love for opening presents. Though he's getting better it was still a good thing that his cousin Rhea was on hand to help him out. After accumulating a pile of trucks, books, clothes, a sit and spin and other assorted goodies Grandpa Tim brought in the "big guy". In the time it took for Kaden to get a bath, his brand new personal slide and sports station had been setup in the living room. The rest of the night was spent with Rhea and Kaden going up and down and up and down the new slide.

Saturday morning started with a flurry of activity. Daddy went to work on getting the smoker fired up for the chickens and ribs. Rhea got started on decorating Kaden's personal cake, Mommy went to work on making the tea and prepping the sides and Aunt Shaunna and Granny got cracking on the decorations while Pa chased Kaden around. Grandma Kar

en and Grandpa Tim got to the house just in time to relieve Pa and coax Kaden in to a pre-party nap. One giant cupcake cake, 2 green bean casseroles, a crazy amount of roasted potatoes, a cheese tray, open flames and a ridiculous number of balloons later...it was time to party!

Leading the charge of guests for the party were Pappaw John and Grandma Nee who drove in to Charlotte that morning just for this special occasion.

They party itself went off without a hitch. Kaden was so delighted to have so many of his family and friends gathered to celebrate his special day. Most of his time was spent outside enjoying the beautiful day, toddling from person to person enjoying the special attention and many assisted trips up and down his new slide. It really was a picture perfect afternoon, the sun was out the dogs were chasing each other, the kids were running around in the yard and the adults were enjoying watching the mayhem and sharing stories. But of course it wasn't all rainbows and sunshine...there was a bit of destruction involved in the day......queue the birthday song and cake.

In retrospect it may not have been the smartest choice to bring out the cake prior to eating. But when you've got first time, super excited parents and super excited guests reason sometimes takes a back seat. As Kaden was surrounded by all of his friends and family singing the timeless happy birthday song, and the cameras flashed and the video recorded he did what every hungry 1 year old would do. He proceeded to scoop up large amounts of icing and stuff his face. And as everyone cheered and smiled, he continued to stuff large handfuls of icing in to his tiny little mouth. "Smash the cake" sa

id Mommy, "smash the cake" said Daddy...but still the icing just kept making it in to that little body that had never had more than the smallest amount of sugar until this day. Time for reinforcements! With the all to0 willing support from Rhea, Austin, Terry and Tanner a proper cake smashing was initiated. Kaden delighted at the inside of the cake being split open for his viewing and eating pleasure and his friends were just as equally happy with their now frosting and cake covered hands.

After a tearful departure with the remains of his birthday cake, it was off to a quick bath for the Birthday Boy and time to chow down on some of Daddy's famous ribs for the party guests. A much cleaner and cake free Kaden rallied through his tiredness to give well wishes to parting guests after dinner was over. He even managed to stay awake for the present opening portion of the day. Though as with previous attempts at opening presents he relied mostly on his cousin Rhea and his friends to help with any pesky wrapping paper. He was much more interested in the contents of the gift!

As the guests left and the remaining food put away we were left with every Toddler's dream...a room full of toys, books and games. Some that lit up, some that played music, even a few that were a parents dream, quiet and educational......then of course we had one that "popped". A right of passage for any Grandparent, the giving of the toy that makes the most noise. The award for this year went to Pappaw John for his hand picking of the infamous popcorn popper push toy. He was even so kind as to show Kaden how to use it properly.

Popcorn poppers, sugared up kids and all it was a great weekend of fun and celebration with friends and family who are an important part of our life and Kaden's up bringing. We couldn't have asked for a better celebration of our little boys 1st birthday or a better group of people to share it with. Here's looking forward to number 2 and another succesful gathering with our friends and family!

Toaster Oven Grilled Cheese

From the time I was visibly pregnant with Kaden friends, family and total strangers have always said to me….”enjoy it while they are little, the time goes by fast”. Always I would acknowledge them with a smile and a nod of my head and in my mind I knew what they were saying was right but that’s kind of one of those things you just can understand until you’ve experienced it. I don’t want to brag or anything…but I think I’m a fast learner. Here we sit in the middle of February, just one month away from Kaden’s first birthday and it feels like just yesterday that I was pregnant. With the exception of a 2 night get away, I’ve been present every single day of Kaden’s life and I still can’t believe how fast he has grown and changed.

As we approach the one year milestone, I am not only amazed at Kaden’s development, but am already reflecting at some of the silly ideas I had about the type of parent I would be. For all the reading and best laid plans, I’m already learning that the experts don’t know my son, all I can do is the best that I can and it’s not a bad thing to take advantage of modern advancements.

One of my anxieties as a parent (and yes, like plastic spoons and sippy cups I generally carry a few with me at all times) is that Kaden get the proper nutrition and learn to eat a balanced diet. For all the splendid efforts of my mom, I’m not exactly the poster child for the food pyramid. While most parents are relieved when their kids start eating meals with the family, I was sent in to a panic. How will I make sure that Kaden always has good food and something from the proper food groups for every meal? Should I buy organic? Is frozen as good as fresh? The answer to all those questions….who knows; just do the best you can. To illustrate my point I present Exhibit A; dinner. As Daddy, who usually cooks dinner in our house, was walking out the door the anxiety set in. Single Mom, one rowdy dog, 2 cats and a helpless little toddler in need of nourishment….why oh why didn’t I spend my Sunday preparing nourishing meals? Mommy’s solution….toaster oven grilled cheese, green beans and a banana. I doubt it’s going to win me any awards…but in our house sometimes toaster oven grilled cheese is the answer.

Let’s move on to another fun one. Exibit B; the portable DVD player. Now I’m pretty sure along the way either in my head or out loud I’ve said something to the effect of “kids watch too much tv” or “I want Kaden to learn to entertain himself and enjoy the scenery”. It didn’t take more than a couple of slightly painful temper tantrums during long trips for us to change our mind. And from having spent some time in the back seat now myself, I can honestly say there really isn’t much going on back there. We are now the proud owners of a dual screen portable DVD player for the car. We haven’t road tested it yet. We will be taking it for its maiden voyage to Savannah for a visit to the VanLefler’s in about a week…so I’ll let you know how that turns out.

Let’s be honest here, it’s not like I generally spend my weekends preparing nutritious meals anyway…but on this particular weekend I had a good excuse. It was Super Bowl Sunday and our favorite team The Pittsburgh Steelers were headed to the big game. Our house was buzzing with excitement as we pulled out the proper attire and prepared some of our favorite game day snacks to take with us to the Kaler’s. We would spend the day with the Kaler’s and then return home in time to watch the game from the comforts of our living room. The weather was perfect and the day went off without a hitch.

We are all well aware that we didn’t win that game. When the opposing team converts 3 or more turnovers to touchdowns, a big fat loss is generally the outcome. Now if you know Lance, you know that he lives and breathes Black and Gold. Under normal circumstances the outcome of that game would have put him in a foul mood for days to come. However, it is impossible to be upset at anything in the world, when your sweet baby boy is running around the room laughing his head off. I don’t know if it was the energy of the Super Bowl or if it was the effect of spending the day with the Kaler boys, but on this particular night Kaden was full of energy and loving life. He was showing off his mad walking skills by traveling at record speed around the living room and between Mommy and Daddy. His forward projection was only stopped by the occasional “grab and tickle” session which just doubled the amount of laughter. Even Kiesel got in on the action as he and Kaden rolled around on the floor. Sure the Steeler’s just gave the Packer’s a touchdown....but sweet Baby Bug is holding on to your leg, smiling up at you with his favorite book in hand. A requested reading of Quack and Piddle trumps anything playing on television.

And that’s how it goes around our house these days. We eat toaster oven grilled cheese and it’s no big deal to have the sports highlight of the season interrupted by laughter and books about baby Duck’s. I’m sure the list of exhibits where I’ve contradicted myself could already reach the middle of the alphabet. But as the popular saying goes….it’s all good! Our son is happy and healthy and even the occasional rough days always have moments of laughter.

It's the end of the world as we know it.....and I feel fine

The title for the blog seemed appropriate; given that it's been so long since our last it's going to sound like the REM song that nobody can sing all the way through. Sing it with me now.......drop off, pick up, alarm clocks, baby bottles, midnight teething, late for work, playtime, bath time, squeaky toys, lots of noise, quiet time, time to eat, time to sleep, the dog is due for shots next week....it's the end of the world as we knew it....and I feel fine!

Actually, we are all feeling great! In just a few months our sweet baby boy has officially become a toddler. He started in the "big kids" class this week, can walk across the room on his own power and has zero interest in baby food. He's sporting 6 teeth, big boy shoes and an almost constant smile. But let me slow down and tell you what's been going on up to this point...


October

We had a very big month. The whole family made the trip home to enjoy Kaden's first Forest Festival. A time honored, annual event that brings the carnival, exhibits and of course the grand feature parade to the generally quiet streets of Elkins. No carnival rides for Kaden this year, but he did get to soak up the atmosphere as we hopped from ride to ride chasing Rhea and Lexi. I'm pretty sure he had the opportunity to experience carnival food, but neither he nor Granny are fessing up to that one. Other highlights from the weekend include the winged wheels motorcycle show and watching the grand feature parade with Grandaddy and Nanna. Of course Kaden filled his first festival right of passage by attending and falling asleep during the fireman's parade. (That's a constant parade of fire truck’s rolling slowly down the street, with lights flashing and sirens blaring for those of you not familiar with Festival)

But the party didn't stop there. Pappaw John and Grandma Nee trucked it down to Charlotte to visit the following weekend and take in the Nascar races. Kaden and Mommy had a great time hanging out at the campsite and strolling through the vendor stands. Daddy got to take a few nights off and enjoy the races and the after race activities of the campsite. Kaden got his first taste of fried potatoes and deer gravy and he's definitely a fan.

Halloween brought more fun in the month of October. We carved our first family pumpkins; big scary Daddy pumpkin, medium sized neutral Mommy pumpkin and cute little Baby pumpkin. We were all pleased with our art work, but I think baby pumpkin with his two teeth to mimic Kaden was by far the winner.

We were well stocked with candy and an oh so cute costume for Kaden's first Halloween. However, as we found out with this holiday, planning ahead doesn't always pay off. By the time we got to Halloween Kaden had taken a fairly decent growth spurt and his oh so cute Halloween costume went from being the very cool Batman to looking more like Bat-boy in short pants. Yes...his costume was too little. And if you are wondering if we dressed him up in the costume anyway...yes, yes we did. However, put your concerns at rest because he only wore it for about 30 minutes. That was all that was left of Halloween by the time he woke up. But in those 30 minutes we handed out candy, got pictures with our freshly carved pumpkins and a good time was had by all.


November

As I look back on the happenings of November I write this with mixed emotion. In November one of the most wonderful women I have ever known left us to take her spot in Heaven. We are all blessed and better people for having her in our life. Even Kaden, who only knew her for a short time, will carry a little something forward from Grandma Yokum.

It was also this November that a new angel entered our life, as proud parents Cassie and Joe welcomed Jackson Leonard Dooling to the world. Cassie and I have been best friends since our first day together on the YMCA van back in elementary school, so it's great that our "guys" will have the opportunity to be such great friends too.

Work was big theme in the month of November.. So big in fact that we had to fly in reinforcements to help out for a week. Grandma Karen was kind enough to drop everything and come spend a week with us to help out with Kaden and other stuff around the house. Mommy worked a rather intense schedule and Daddy was doing his normal work travel. It's hard to say who had more fun, Kaden or Grandma Karen, but I know they were both sad when the week was over.

Mommy and Daddy (or Lance and Amanda as they were once known) road tripped it to Pittsburgh for their annual anniversary trip. It wouldn't be an anniversary without good friends and Steeler's football! This year we were fortunate enough to see the Steelers bring home a victory and had a great time enjoying that victory with Justin, Amy, Steve and Angie. Kaden and Kiesel stayed behind to enjoy some quality time with Granny and other close by family members. This was of course the first time Kaden and Mommy had been apart for any real length of time. Kaden did great. Mommy had a few moments where she had to pull it together but didn't do too bad herself. I think we learned that 2 nights is Mommy's limit. As it got dark on the second night of being away Mommy was ready to make the drive back to Granny's, but Daddy to the rescue with reason and rationale.

And that brings us to Thanksgiving. We celebrated Thanksgiving in Charlotte this year, just Daddy, Mommy, Kaden and the animals. Kaden enjoyed his first tastes of an assortment of yummy items...turkey, green bean casserole and mashed potatoes. And of course there was a small feast passed down to our furry friends.

On the day after Thanksgiving (aka Black Friday) Kaden and Mommy braved the crowds and took advantage of some great deals at Toys R Us and the mall. Probably the last time we'll do that as a team for many years to come, but our first run was a huge success! Just picture a sleeping baby in the stroller, a mom with 4 hands and people everywhere. that’s kind of how it went down.


December

Looking back now, this is definitely the month where it all started to happen. We didn't even see it coming, but we were losing our baby. At this point we were starting to wonder if Kaden was ever going to get the hang of crawling. For weeks he had been up on all fours rocking back and forth as if he would take off at any minute...then all of a sudden on December 3..off he went. A little wobbly at first, but within a day or two he was quite proficient and catching us off guard with how quick he could move. Point in case would be the day that I stepped out to the garage to quickly grab something out of my car and turned around to find him trailing me and already down the stoop. (oops!)


A trip to WV for 10 days over Christmas didn't slow him down either. In fact, we came with a crawler and left with a babbling crawler/climber. I guess spending time with his older cousin made him realize that he didn't want to be hanging out on the floor and that the good stuff was up in higher elevations.


We kicked off the week with Kaden's first haircut. It was an easy decision to say it was time when Daddy kept referring to his baby boy as Billy Ray...in honor of the famous 80's hairstyle he brought back (aka the mullet). Kaden did great in the chair. His first haircut was delivered at Cathy's Beauty Boutique in Valley Bend, by none other than Cathy herself. Kaden also had Austin, Savanna and Tarra there to support him as well. Probably all reasons why he laughed and smiled the whole time. It was a great social event too as it's been a while since I had been at one of my old child hood stomping grounds and spent time with Tarra and the kids. Tarra and I spent some quality time in and around the shop when we were kids. Probably why we were there for about 3 hours that night, so thank you to Cathy for putting up with us so late in to the night.


Christmas was much like the Christmas' I remember from my childhood. Lots going on, family everywhere, places to go and presents to be opened. We did a good job of spreading it out this year and really got to enjoy quality time with everyone. Per usual for a 9 month old, Kaden was not yet in to the present opening scene. He was pleased with the finished results however, so it was lucky he had Rhea on hand to be his official present opener. They were quite the dynamic duo ripping through paper and smiling big when the contents revealed themselves.


Holiday baking has come to be a big part of the Christmas tradition in our family and this year was no exception. The coolest part of this year’s cookie baking was the immersion of Rhea in to the process. In previous years she's been interested and capable of helping with a few things here and there, but this year was different. She was not only by my side measuring things, but she took on tasks all by herself. As she will tell you, she skinned the whole bag of hershey kisses and reese cups all by herself! (And for the record, it's not child labor...she wanted to help). We made gingerbread people, cut out and decorated sugar cookies, rolled ball after ball of peanut butter blossoms and of course made a couple of batches of traditional chocolate chip cookies.


We had another slight wardrobe malfunction over the Christmas holiday. Once again careful planning and forward thinking were the enemy. In honor of Kaden's first Christmas Granny had a pair of red butt flap pajamas (you know like the old moonshiners wore) custom embroidered to commemorate the event. Once again, our off the charts little guy was a bit too long for his outfit. And yes, like all good parents, we did make him wear the outfit for pictures but have otherwise retired it to his keepsake bag.

In an ironic turn of events, we drove back the day after Christmas to Charlotte, only to find that Santa had brought more than just presents.......the ground was covered in snow! By the time we got back it was mostly crusty ice and it melted the next day. but all the same we had snow for Christmas in the south. After getting a good nights sleep, we awoke to find that Christmas wasn't quite over. By the time we unpacked all of the boxes that arrived in our absence the Christmas tree was full of gifts. We spent the morning opening presents and enjoying some of the great stuff mailed to us by far away family. I know it's hard to keep count, so let me summarize for you....in a matter of 10 days, Kaden got to experience Christmas 6 times. Talk about being loved!!

You would never know it to look at him, but Kaden's handsome and energetic Daddy finally turned the big 4-0! We commemorated the event with a gathering of family and friends and course what else but Steelers football. We had a bit of a challenge finding a location with the game on, due to the Thursday night schedule, but by mid-first quarter we were able to commandeer some bar stools and watch the Steelers lay the smack down on the Panthers. Daddy and Mommy will be rounding out the celebration with a 3 day trip to Key West in April, where we'll hopefully be soaking up the sun and laying in to some nice big fish off the deck of our fishing charter.

January

So if December was the beginning...January would be the end. Not long after the first of the year our sweet baby boy became a toddler. That's right..no more baby, he's a full fledged feeding himself, walking and climbing toddler. It was so random that I don't even remember the exact night, but we were all in the living room, winding down for the evening when Kaden took his first steps. He had pulled himself up on his toy box and was holding one of Kiesel's bones. Without a thought he just started to move forward and before anyone (including Kaden) knew what was going on, he had traveled 3 steps, dog bone still in hand. We all sat silent for a moment, and then everyone just started smiling and laughing. For the next few days, most of his walking was limited to walking behind his school bus or push cart.
It was again a trip to WV and time around his big cousin Rhea when he began to further progress in his walking skills. The video of Kaden's first documented steps was taken in Granny's living room on MLK weekend and there are several since then all marking the progression of his walking abilities. Nothing grabs the attention of an audience like a cute little boy demonstrating new skills, and Kaden is quickly learning that. During the gathering to commemorate Granny's 60th birthday Kaden was more than happy to entertain the family with demonstrations of his walking abilities. Big cousin Rhea was always close by, just in case he needed encouragement or assistance.
Speaking of Granny's 60th birthday, we are sad to say that we have only had limited sightings of her since. There is a body with an iPad head that is seen frequently, but very few Granny viewings.
I can't believe it, but I almost left out the snow storm that hit Charlotte the second week of January. Very unusual for the south, but one morning we woke up to about 3 inches of snow on the ground and of course schools and businesses were closed for the day. Fortunately/unfortunately Mommy and Daddy both have the ability to do some work from home, so it wasn't a total snow day. We did however all take a break and go outside in our snow gear to enjoy the freshly fallen snow. Kaden loved it from the minute we put him down. He took off crawling through the snow like a bundled up little plow. And of course he thought it was quite funny to see Kiesel kicking up snow when he went running after the ball.
Phew...finally..my head is swimming with trying to remember all the events of the past few months. And while I would like to say that I'll do better next time and write more frequently...I try to never make promises that I'm not sure I can keep.

OK...everybody now..let's sing this one out.........dirty diapers, dirty dog feet, did Kaden get enough to eat, what's for dinner, what's in your hair, get the cat out of the chair, uh oh overflow, clean it up, let it go...it's the end of the world as we know it and I feel fine!

Good-bye Summer – September 2010

Yes, I know it’s been awhile since our last post, but we fully intend to make up for that by overloading you with information. Grab your favorite beverage and settle in, because we have been very busy the last few months, so it’s going to be a long one……

When we last left you, we were burning up the interstate between North Carolina and West Virginia and spending lots of time with family. That did not stop in the months of July and August. Towards the middle of July (just shortly after Rhea celebrated her 4th birthday) Kaden, Mommy and Kiesel loaded up the 4-Runner and headed to WV to welcome home a hero and allow Kaden to meet his Uncle Shaney for the first time in person. Kaden was happy to meet the guy he had heard so much about, and this was reflected in his smiles and admiring stares. We were able to spend a few days at Granny’s cabin, enjoying the breeze as it combated the unusually hot (though not as hot as NC) weather. During that trip, there was much discussion about Kaden and his size compared to his Uncle Shaney at his age. As it stands right now, Kaden is trending a bit bigger than his rather large Uncle Shaney, though time will tell.
We did not stay in WV long, because we were missing Daddy. However, we did not leave all of WV behind. Shane, Shaunna, Rhea and Kya made the long journey to NC to spend a few days with us in Charlotte. Daddy was happy to have all of us back. It was an added bonus as well to have a golf buddy for a few days and Lance and Shane braved the crazy hot weather to spend some time on the golf course. Kaden, Rhea, Shaunna and I took the slightly smarter approach and found some fun air conditioned activities to occupy our time. The most memorable of those being a trip to the local animal farm, the Lazy 5 Ranch. At Lazy 5 we were able to drive through the park (windows up and air on) and see a myriad of animals up close and personal. Unfortunately the Rhino and the Giraffe’s were restricted from being able to access our car, but we got some pretty up close views of them just the same. Having a very large ostrich pecking on the window right next to your head is an experience you don’t want to miss!

I should also mention that Uncle Shaney (aka Daddy to his baby girl, Rhea) got to go on his first “adventure” to Chuck E Cheese. Rhea was so excited to take her Daddy to Chuck E Cheese, as it is on her list of favorite places. At the risk of blowing his tough guy cover, I would say that both Daddy and Daughter had an excellent time playing air hockey and other games. If you are reading this little brother, work on your football throwing skills as we are going to need more tickets next time!!

In between travels and fun stuff, we also spent the latter part of summer focusing on physical therapy for Kaden’s neck and working with a company called Cranial Technologies to ensure Kaden maintained an appropriate head shape. I would not have believed that this process would make our perfect little boy any more perfect, but I was amazed! The physical therapy visits were conducted at our house in Charlotte and we worked with a great lady named Tiffany. Tiffany came twice a week and worked with Kaden on stretching his neck muscles and ensuring that he developed properly on both sides of his body. She also worked with Mommy and Daddy to teach them the proper methods for working with Kaden on his stretching and strengthening exercises. It was amazing; in a few short weeks Kaden went from a very visible neck tilt, to a perfectly straight and level neck. He also began rolling over during these sessions and grabbing at toys and other objects.

Step two of the process involved Kaden getting fitted with a DOC band, often referred to as a helmet. The plastic/styrofoam band was fitted to Kaden’s head and designed to help his head mold and his ears align as he grew. He wore the band 23 hours a day for 8 weeks and was very rarely even bothered by its presence. As they say with many things, the whole experience was tougher on the parents. With the exception of a few incidents where Mommy’s maternal instinct to maim was triggered by the ignorance of a few people, we all came out of the experience with many positive things. Those incidents were few and far between though, and the general response was the typical Kaden reaction, with people talking about how cute he is, how much they liked his paint job, how sweet his smile is and how he makes a helmet look good! In fact, Granny was such a fan of the helmet that she was sad when it was taken off; mostly she was a fan of the chubby cheeks factor produced by the helmet.

The need for physical therapy and the DOC band all stemmed from a condition call Torticollis. In basic terms, Kaden was “squished” in the womb and the lack of space to move around prohibited his ability to fully stretch out and allow the neck muscles and tendons on his right side to stretch and develop appropriately. As such, Kaden was unable to fully turn his head to the right for the first two months of his life. The downstream reaction of that being he developed an asymmetrical head shape. While it can be a very emotional process for the parents, it’s a virtually pain free condition with only some minor discomfort coming from the initial stretching and strengthening exercise for the baby. Kaden’s neck position and strength is something that we will continue to monitor through the first 18 months of his life, to ensure his development remains on target and bilateral. We know that many parents face much more challenging and even life threatening conditions with their babies and we count our blessings every day that we were given such a healthy and thriving baby.

A google search will produce lots of results on Torticollis and Cranial Technologies has a great website explaining the in’s and out’s of the DOC band if you would like to learn more. And of course Lance and I are happy to share our experiences and information for anyone who find they are facing a similar challenge.

The month of August brought more sweltering heat to the South, and you guessed it, more trips to the mountains of WV to cool off and be outside. For our August journey the whole family was able to make the trip (minus Louie and Kitty who prefer the comforts of the air conditioned house). We spent a week relaxing and visiting.

To start the week, we set up camp at Stuart’s Park in Grandpa Conley and Pappaw John’s campers. For three nights we hung out in the woods, made s’mores and relaxed. Our camping party continues to grow as we added Uncle Shaney, Aunt Shaunna, Rhea and Grandma Nee to the festivities on this trip. Rhea as you know is a seasoned veteran as of this summer, but it’s been awhile since her Mom and Dad joined us out in the woods. We also had a very special day when Aunt Casey, Riley and Madison dropped by to spend the day with us. Aunt Casey cooked up some tasty mountain pies and Riley, Madison and Rhea had loads of fun playing around the campsite. I think the group favorite was standing under the awning as we cleared the pooled rain water. Kaden in particular thought the girls were funny. Keeping watch over them pretty much wore down the little guy. I think he’s looking forward to next year when he can run around the campsite with his cousins.

Our outdoor adventures did not stop at Stuarts. After three slightly rainy days, we packed up camp and headed to the higher elevations of Granny’s cabin. While there we enjoyed some amazing summer weather and spent some time visiting family in the big town of Harman. Lance and Shane once again found some time to hit the links and we all enjoyed a very healthy round of skeet shooting off Granny’s front porch. I would say hundreds of shells and 3 shotguns constitute a “healthy” round. Kaden and Kiesel wore themselves out running around and playing and as always Kaden enjoyed spending time on the porch overlooking the fields and playing in his exersaucer, in between keeping an eye on the various activities of his little blond haired cousin of course. We suffered a minor setback when we realized the spring had dried up and we were without water, but we were able to work through that with a trip to Grandma Simmons and Granddaddy Pete’s and several bucket brigade trips to the pond.

We rounded out our vacation with a very successful trip to Pappaw John’s garden and one more rainy trip to the golf course. We found ourselves heavily laden with a variety of vegetables as we made our way back to North Carolina to finish out our summer. Upon returning to NC Kaden “helped” can 24 quarts of pickles and 18 pints of green beans. His favorite part was chewing on the raw green beans.

In the spirit of chewing, Kaden got his first teeth in the month of August. It was at times a very painful process for all involved, and still continues to be on occasion, but happy to report that Kaden has two very healthy bottom, front teeth that rise higher and higher every day. Who would have thought that such a sweet smile could be made even sweeter!

Our final weeks of August were spent completing last minute errands and preparing ourselves for the very big change that fall would bring. We also took the opportunity in the last week of August to meet Kaden’s growing demand for nourishment by introducing vegetables to his bland diet of formula, rice cereal and oatmeal. All of the orange vegetables have been a success, followed by the greens. Sweet potatoes seem to be his preferred favorite, but he’s generally pretty enthusiastic about whatever is given to him. We have since started adding fruits to the menu, but are finding that he still tends to lean more towards the veggies. Thankfully he seems to have gotten his Daddy’s preference for good food and not his Mommy’s pension for sweets. When possible we are preparing the food ourselves, using fresh veggies and a food processor, but he is equally happy with the contents from the Gerber jar.

With the end of summer came a big change for the Marcum household. Mommy was slated to start work on 9/30 and Kaden was signed up to attend daycare for the first time. It was sad to see our summer end along with frequent trips to WV, visits from family and leisure time outside, but the anticipation of the upcoming change also added an air of excitement.

The first days of “school” turned out to be quite successful. Mommy got up, put on her big girl clothes and went to work as planned, while Daddy and Kaden enjoyed breakfast before Daddy dropped Kaden off for his first big day. Everybody had their sad moments that first day, but all in all we held it together pretty well. Daddy did not make a scene when he dropped off his baby boy, Mommy only called the school once to check on her baby bug and Kaden adjusted to the environment and fell in to his normal sleep routine by that afternoon. By the second day the routine was running like clockwork and with each day we all got a little more comfortable and a little happier with the adjustment. This isn’t to say that we aren’t still having occasions where Mommy runs a little late for work because she wants extra snuggle time with her baby in the morning or Kaden gets dropped off a little later because he and Daddy are enjoying the morning. I would warn anyone traveling North on 1-85 between 4:30 and 5 during the week to make a hole when you see a black 4-Runner coming through, because there’s a very excited mommy behind the wheel headed for the best part of her day……but like I said, we are adjusting well over all.

Fortunately for all of us, our change of routine was made a little easier by the Labor Day Holiday’s. We used the weekend to make a quick trip to WV to celebrate Erich and Savanna’s wedding, and then used the short work week to catch up on household chores and lots of missed cuddles and belly kisses. We are pleased to report that Kaden made the trip wonderfully and seemed to rather enjoy the comforts of his new “big boy” car seat.

9/11 was full of varying emotions for us this year. As we remembered those who lost their lives and those who continue to defend our country against cowardly terrorist bastards, we also celebrated Kaden’s 6 month birthday. Just like every month, it’s hard to understand where the time goes and how it’s possible that the healthy and vibrant baby boy we wake up to every morning was just a tiny speck in his Mommy’s belly this time last year. Now we are his parents and some day he will come to us full of questions about what happened so many years ago on 9/11. I hope we answer those questions honestly and clearly and that he is able to benefit and not be part of a future that makes the same mistakes or faces the same tragedies. I hope he also learns about pride, honor and defending your loved ones as well as those who cannot defend themselves.

And that pretty much brings us to current day. Kaden went for his 6 month check up this week and continues to be off the charts in height. He is currently a lengthy 28 inches and weighs 19lbs and 1 ounce. His health and development are right on par and within seconds of getting his vaccinations he was smiling at the nurses and bringing his usual happiness to everyone at the doctor’s office. He’s a smiling happy boy when Mommy picks him up at school and we are pretty sure the afternoon ladies fight over who gets to play with him the most.

We are truly blessed and hope this very lengthy post finds you all the same!

It cannot possibly be July already - June 2010

I don't know how it happened, but here we sit on July 12 with almost half the summer already gone. It probably has something to do with all the fun we've been having in the last few weeks, because you know what they say about time and fun......at any rate the last few weeks have been chock-full of firsts.

We started the month out with our first single parent trip to West Virginia to spend a long weekend hanging out with friends and family. Lance (aka Daddy) stayed in Charlotte to do a few things around the house and enjoy some much deserved personal time. The trip was a success with both Kaden and Kiesel traveling like pros!

When we returned to the steamy south we brought some very precious cargo with us. Rhea, Shaunna and their dog Kya made the long trip down to spend some time with us in the month of June. Having 2 full grown german shepherds, 3 adults, 2 cats, a three year old and a baby in the same house would probably have been a site to see at times; but it was great having so much life in the house. Rhea was a great helper always wanting to help change Kaden's diaper, pick out his clothes and of course entertain him during tummy time. Likewise, Kaden was very intent on watching Rhea and observing her activities. I think they will be great friends and playmates. It was also great to have Aunt Shaunna's energy around to help out with the big man. She did a lot of entertaining and a lot of walking/bouncing when the situation called for it. Shaunna was even gracious enough to give the new Mommy and Daddy a date night.

Of course a visit to see Uncle Lancey and Aunt Manda is not complete without a trip to Chuck E Cheese. I have a feeling Chuck E Cheese will be part of our future for years to come, because not only does Rhea have a great time there ,but Kaden really enjoyed all the lights and sounds as well. We also took a trip to Discovery Place where we watched a very impressive 3D film about sharks and played with some interesting "experiments".

During Rhea and Shaunna's visit Kaden took his very first dip in the pool. He was not a fan of the sun in his eyes, but once we got him situated in his frog float with the half cover he had a great time bobbing around the kiddy pool with his cousin Rhea. It was also a monumental time for Rhea in that she began putting her face in the water and feeling much more secure in the pool. We might have future swim stars on our hands, one just never knows!

Towards the end of the month we packed up the dogs and the kids and headed north again. Lance stayed behind to finish up his work week and then joined us in WV on the first of July. During our time in WV we had lots of important firsts. My personal favorite being that Kaden slept through the night for multiple nights in a row. (note we have been unable to replicate this phenomenon since we have returned to NC). We also went on Kaden's first camping trip (and I believe Rhea's first overnight camping trip as well) with Pappaw John and Grandpa Conley. Kaden loves being outside and enjoyed hanging out by the campfire and playing outside in his exersaucer. It was unusually cold at night (down in the 40's), but Grandpa Conley had us covered and let us borrow his ceramic heater for inside Pappaw John's camper. And speaking of Pappaw John, while we were home he reached the monumental milestone called retirement. Though I think he had mixed feelings about leaving a job he had been doing for almost 30 years, we are looking forward to hopefully seeing him in NC a little more this year (hint, hint).

In other firsts, Kaden met his friends Austin and Savanna for the first time. We spent the afternoon hanging out poolside with Austin, Savanna and their Mommy, Tarra. Tarra and I have been friends since the third grade, so it was pretty cool to see each other and see our kids together. Savanna is only 2 months younger than Kaden.

Of course we should not forget Kaden's first trip to Granny's cabin. He had a great time enjoying the clean mountain air, watching the dogs frolic by the pond and of course riding atop Granny's new John Deere. We hope to make many visits to the cabin in the future, provided of course we find a way to keep everyone out of the pond (yeah right).

After celebrating my Grandad's 90th birthday and a few other fun activities, Lance, Kaden, Kiesel and I made our way back to NC. We were greeted with the 100 degree weather, which is quite hot for this time of year, even in the South. Since we have been back we have been spending most of our time in-doors and are all missing the mountain air, the cool weather and our family & friends back in WV. However, it's been nice to catch up with some of our Charlotte friends and hear what they've been up to lately.

I'll close out this month's blog with one more first....Kaden's first (and only) 4 month "birthday". It's hard to believe that he is already 4 months old. Everybody always wants to know how much he weighs, and today's official answer is 16lbs and 14 ounces. Which is a perfectly healthy weight for someone who is 27 1/2 long! Kaden celebrated his 4 month milestone by "finding" his feet for the first time. The ability to see, grab and almost chew his feet (yes, he is millimeters away from getting them in his mouth) has also sparked a lot of new sounds and babble, which is a lot of fun for Mommy and Daddy as well.

Welcome Summer - May 2010

Summer 2010 is off to a great start in the Marcum house! Kaden is doing amazing, he is quite the handsome fella (totally unbiased opinion) and we couldn't be more proud of him.

We started the month of May with a visit from the family of Amanda's long time friend, Jen. The VanLef crew came and spent the day with us and I can already see a lifetime of friendship budding between Kale and Kaden. Kale is about 8 months Kaden's senior, but that's almost the exact age difference between Kale's Momma, Jen and Kaden's Mommy. The main chaos makers on this visit were Kiesel and Kale's dog Moby, but I feel certain that Kale and Kaden will be stepping it up on future visits. We loved having the VanLef's for the day and it was great to see how much Kale has grown and changed since their last visit with us. It's also good to see what we are in store for in a few months with Kaden....Thanks Jen and Trish for paving the way!!

Kaden had his 2 month doctor's appointment and continues to keep right on thriving in the 90th percentile for height and weight. Our Big Man checked in at 24 1/4 inches and 13.6 pounds. As of this post we can assure you that he has continued to grow. Almost over night we had to replace just about all of Kaden's 6 month clothes with 9 month size. At this point he is growing in to his clothing sizes in weeks instead of months.

Towards the middle of the month we had a visit from Grandma Karen and Grandpa Tim. They drove all the way from Alabama to spend a long weekend visiting and spoiling their grandson. It was also a milestone weekend for Mommy and Daddy as they left their precious baby boy with Grandma Karen for a few hours and went out for their first "date" in a very long time. It was a strange feeling to be out without our big man, but great to spend some alone time. Thanks for making that possible Grandma Karen!

The month rounded out with a visit from Pappaw John and Grandpa Conley. They come down every year for the Nascar race weekend and camp out at the track. However this year found them lingering at the house a little more than normal spending time with their new grandson. Kaden also made multiple appearances at the campsite near the track and absolutely loved it. Kaden was the only kid in the campground with his own oscillating fan. Pappaw John ensured the fan stayed in optimal position for Kaden's comfort and Grandpa Conley kept the generator running to supply the power. I think we may be raising a future race fan, though there seems to be some discrepancy about who his driver of choice will be.

If the start of the summer is any indication, summer 2010 is going to be a great one. We are looking forward to more visitors, more travel and many new experiences!

Smile for Daddy!

Wow! Here we are staring down Kaden's 2 month mark. It's been a whirl wind month and he has changed so much in a short time that it's hard to know where to start.

We started out the month with a visit from Aunt Amy and Uncle Justin. They flew all the way from Indianapolis to spend the weekend with us and meet their nephew for the first time. We couldn't have ordered better weather for their visit and of course Kaden had a great time getting spoiled by his aunt and uncle. As all good Aunt's do, Amy came loaded with gifts and Kaden is now properly outfitted for all Pittsburgh sporting events, including of course the hockey playoffs.

Speaking of hockey playoffs, Kaden has enjoyed each Penguins game in the series from the comforts of his Daddy's lap. A couple of bottles and a Penguins game make for some pretty happy father and son moments. I would say it's pretty safe to say that the next generation of sport's loving Marcum's is in development.

We have also been getting out and about more locally and have been visiting with friends in the Charlotte area on weekends. Kaden even made his first trip to the town of Waxhaw and continues to be an excellent traveler. He seems to have a fan base wherever we go and is enjoying all the attention and love.

With regards to the Big Man himself, Kaden continues to grow like a weed. He is now wearing 6 month clothes and in some cases 6 - 9 month clothes. We go tomorrow for our 2 month checkup and expect to hear that he is developing perfectly! And of course the big news for the month is that Kaden has started smiling. Daddy was the first to get to see Kaden's beautiful smile, but there have been many more since then shared with Mommy and others. Kaden has also discovered the various sites and sounds of his baby einstein gym and spends up to 30 minutes at a time playing and cooing in his gym. He is also showing signs of being interested in books as he kicks, grins and coos when being read to. So far he seems to like his animal book best with the bright colors and big pictures.

We are still not sleeping through the night, but Kaden is occasionally surprising us with 5 and 6 hour stretches, so we are hoping a full nights sleep is on the horizon. For now though we will do our best to enjoy the late night feeding/cuddling sessions and know that someday we will long for him to smile and cuddle with us at 2 in the morning.

Speaking of feedings, it is getting to be close to that time when Kaden will be demanding lunch (and I do mean demanding) so it's probably best if I wrap this up and get lunch prepared.

Best Wishes to all!

Country Roads...Take Me Home

To commemorate Kaden's first month, we took our very first family road trip to West Virginia.

Yep, last Friday we got up early in the morning, loaded up the new luggage hauler and Kiesel, fed and changed Kaden, got the cats situated and three hours later we were on the interstate headed north. (yes....our get up and go now days are over)

Fortunately for us Kaden and Kiesel are both excellent travelers and slept the entire duration of the trip. We were able to make the full trip with only stopping once to feed Kaden and ourselves and allow Kiesel to stretch his legs. For first time parents we were pretty pleased that we only added an hour on to the trip, though I think we have to give most of the credit to our extremely cooperative baby. Mommy and Daddy learned quite a few things about traveling with a little one and have already made improvements.

Our weekend in West Virginia was spent introducing Kaden to many of his family members and life long family friends. He met so many important people for the first time that it's hard to call them all out, but family members ranged from first meetings with aunts and uncles through first time meetings with his great-great grandmother and all of his great-grandparents. We did manage to get some pictures of some of the first time introductions, so check those out on our shutterfly page. Kaden is truly blessed with a very large number of family and friends who are head over heels in love with him already!

Upon our return to Charlotte, Kaden had his one month check up. On April 13, 2010 he weighed 11 pounds and 5 ounces and was 23.25 inches long. Both his height and weight put him in the top 90-95 percentile for all babies. We are so fortunate and thankful to have such a healthy, thriving baby boy.

We are looking forward to the summer, many more road trips and watching our big man grow!

Three Weeks Old

While not an official milestone, Thursday marked Kaden's three week "birthday".



Just like the weeks before he continues to change and become more aware/observant of his surroundings. Mommy and Daddy continue to improve their skills and slowly but surely we are all starting to fall in to a rythym and signs of once again being a somewhat organized household are starting to appear. He is still keeping us on our toes with his schedule, sometimes going 3 hours between feedings sometimes a little longer and sometimes a little less. Though he still wakes up about every 3 hours at night to eat, he's getting much better about eating and going right back to sleep during the night and eating and "hanging out" for a bit during the day. Hopefully over time we'll start to see the night time feedings get spaced out further and further.



We've learned a lot about Kaden in the past three weeks:



He very much likes: music (Jimmy Buffet seems to be a preferred choice), warm baths in his bathtub, cuddling with Mommy, Daddy and anyone who is warm and loving, being outside and riding in his stroller.



He does not like: cool air, being cold or waiting for his meals for any period of time (when the tank is empty, it's empty)



He was not intially a fan of, but is reconsidering: spending time in his swing, his bouncy chair, before bed time massages and diaper changes.





We can't wait to see what next week brings!

Major Milestone - Umbilical Cord

We are pleased to report that Kaden's umbilical cord officially fell off today!!

Sniffle, sniffle....one of many signs of growing up!

Our First Week Home

Our first week home as a new family has been an overall success! Every day we all learn something new about the world and each other, but even the tough moments are completely worth it when we get to gaze at our new baby boy!

Pappa John, Grandma Nee and Grandma Karen were all on hand for our first day home from the hospital. We were released on Sunday, March 14, 2010 and greeted by a spectacular carolina blue sky and sunshine. Of course we had our obligatory bad driver cut in front of the car about 4 miles from home, but Daddy was able to stop in time and with the exception of some irate parents the ride home went without incident. Kaden slept through the entire event. At home, Pappa John carried Kaden from the car in to home and made sure everyone was settled before he and Grandma Nee returned to West Virginia.

Kaden's first night home went very well. Much of the day and most of the evening were spent curled up in the recliner with Grandma Karen. After two weeks of waiting patiently for his arrival, she was able to enjoy some alone time with her new Grandson before returning to Alabama the following day.

On Tuesday, Kiesel came home from his vacation at Don and Kelley's and the house was complete again. After many days spent romping and playing with his dog friend Smokey, Kiesel was ready to relax and lay in his spot by the couch. Kiesel was happy to see Kaden and maintained a constant visual getting up to supervise each time Kaden woke or fussed. In fact, Kiesel is so in love with our new addition that we've had a hard time explaining to him why puppy kisses are not appropriate for little babies.

At first we thought Kaden was trying to set a record for number of wardrobe changes in a single day, but quickly learned that efficiency with the diaper changes saves on the laundry. As Mommy and Daddy have gotten better with the diapers and dressing we've been going through slightly less outfits and linens each day. We have also learned pretty quickly that Kaden does not like to wait for his meals. Working on our system and our technique has produced fewer tears, though we are finding out that sometimes the crying is inevitable and will pass with time. And speaking of eating, Kaden went from eating around .5 ounces of milk about 7 times a day when we came home and is currently demanding 4 ounces of milk around 7 times a day. For those keeping track, there are 16 ounces in a pound...so Kaden is consuming almost 2 pounds of milk in a 24 hour period. This explains why at our last check up on 3/19 he was weighing in at 8lbs and 9 ounces, just 3 ounces shy of his original birth weight.

We have even managed to venture outside of the house on multiple occasions. Kaden seems to really enjoy walks around the neighborhood with his puppy. Thanks to Granny, who came to spend a long weekend, we've also made our first of many shopping trips. A little more tricky than normal to make sure you have all the necessary gear and baby travel items, but Kaden is showing signs of being a very agreeable traveler and quite adaptable to being out and about.

Even in just a weeks time it's been remarkable for us to see how much Kaden has changed. Every day he opens his eyes wider and stays up longer visually exploring and processing his surroundings. His features are becoming more and more defined and his muscle control increases every day. What was once a balled up little bundle is stretching out his arms and his legs and growing by leaps and bounds. Every day brings a new facial expression, a new learning, etc.

If all of our weeks are like this one, we are in for an experience beyond anything we could have imagined!

Introducing Kaden John-Conley Marcum

Hey all!

Wanted to “officially” introduce you to the newest member of our family, Kaden John-Conley Marcum.

Kaden was born in to the world on March 11, 2010 at 5:35pm. He weighed in at 8 pounds and 14.7 ounces and is 21.5 inches long. We couldn’t be more excited to have our beautiful baby boy! We are still undecided as to whom he favors in the looks department, but I think I see more and more of Lance in him everyday. Size wise he seems to take a little more after the male genetics in the Yokum family, sporting some sizable hands and feet. We were told he was the biggest baby born at the hospital on 3/11/10.

Needless to say it has been a long few days. We were admitted to the hospital on Wednesday, March 10, 2010 so that the doctors could start the process of inducing labor. By Thursday morning, labor had begun and by around 12pm that same day Mommy was full of “happy juice” and fully dilated. It looked like Kaden would be born at any time. Unfortunately God and Kaden had other plans. After an afternoon of labor that I’m sure all of the participants would like to have missed, the doctors provided the option of a c-section. Within 16 minutes of starting the procedure Daddy and Mommy finally got to see their beautiful baby boy. Hearing him cry for the first time and seeing him for the first time was an amazing moment neither of us will ever forget and worth every bit of the day’s prior events. The first notable comments in the operating room were regarding the impressiveness of his size and everything after that was a blur of tears and happiness.

I’ve posted lots of pictures to my shutterfly page, which you should be able to access via the following link and you are not required to be a member to do so. If you have any problems, let me know. It’s something new I’m trying out, so feedback welcome.

http://kadenjohnconleymarcum.shutterfly.com/

It’s really amazing to think that this time last week we were writing to share stories about all the activities we were undertaking with hopes of inspiring our little guy to come out, and this week we are sitting here with an amazing baby boy and our life has completely changed. I am positive this is just the start of some amazing times for us all!

Thank you to everyone who has been part of our lives and particularly this most important part. We are blessed to have such an amazing collection of family and friends.

Love,

Lance, Amanda and Kaden


Blog: http://lanceandamandabigadventure.blogspot.com/

Photos: http://kadenjohnconleymarcum.shutterfly.com/

We have a plan - March 9, 2010

Another beautiful day in Charlotte, NC but still no baby Kaden. However, we are excited to report that we do have a plan and should be seeing our little guy in just a few days.

We had our final checkup at the doctor’s office today, and the ultra-sound and fetal monitor show that Kaden is healthy and apparently quite comfortable. Unfortunately he’s a little too comfortable showing no signs that he plans to depart his happy space anytime soon. Numerous miles of walking and a day of yard work (yes, I mowed the back yard yesterday) don’t seem to be coaxing Kaden to join us, so the doctors have agreed that moving forward with an induction is in everyone’s best interest.

Tomorrow night, we will be admitted to the labor and delivery floor where they will start the process for inducing labor. While no results are guaranteed, the chances are good that we’ll be holding our baby boy in our arms sometime Thursday, March 11. As you can imagine Mommy and Daddy are ready for him to get here ASAP and overjoyed to know that the beginning of our newest adventure is just around the corner.

We appreciate the calls, emails and facebook messages checking in on us during this waiting period. We know everyone is anxious to meet Kaden and we can’t wait to introduce him to everyone very soon. There have been a few times in the last few days where I’m quite certain that Granny, Grandma Karen and even Daddy have considered Chinese tickle torture and various other methods to get Kaden to join us. I’m sure many of you have had similar urges and we appreciate the restraint and patience everyone has shown.

Hoping our next message includes pictures of our amazing baby boy!

Love,
Lance and Amanda

Is it time yet?

As you are all well aware, yesterday was Kaden’s “due date”. March 3, 2010 came and went and we are still waiting for our baby boy to join the world.

It’s fairly common for first babies to arrive a bit late, so we still remain patient and generating positive thoughts that Kaden will join us any time now. We are continuing our regiment of walking and staying active, as well as introducing some suggested methods of encouraging labor, such as massage and Mexican food. I would like to emphasize the word some, because as time goes on we are receiving an increasing number of those suggestions…..a few of which sound less than pleasant (castor oil cocktail anyone?).
Here's hoping the next post contains pictures of our baby boy!

Baby Countdown - March 2, 2010

Happy snowy Tuesday all!

So far our hopes that the winter storm would inspire Baby Kaden to make his way in to the world have been thwarted. We have snow falling in West Virginia and North Carolina, but it doesn’t seem to be enough to inspire him just yet.

We had our weekly check up with the Doctor today and were given two thumbs up for everything looking good and being as it should. Unfortunately they are still estimating an arrival time spanning from any time now to late next week. The signs of progress are there, but nothing to give a reliable expected delivery date.

We are getting pretty anxious to hold our little guy and start our new adventures, but guess we’ll have to wait until he’s ready to join the outside world. Our first exercise in patience, with many, many more to follow I’m sure.

Mommy continues to remain fairly uncomfortable, particularly in the evenings, but finds that walking and staying active during the day with various errands and activities seems to help. Daddy remains excited and ready and has been logging some miles on his boots the last few days in support. He even completed a very necessary garage make-over to ensure that we are able to safely and easily move Kaden’s car seat in and out of the car. (those of you who have seen our garage know this was no small job).

Grandma Karen arrived safely on Sunday and just finished putting fresh linens and clean clothes in Kaden’s room. Kiesel is keeping her entertained and quite busy with playing ball. Granny is rumored to be driving around Elkins, WV with a packed car resembling someone who is moving and a cell phone clutched in her hand waiting for the word that labor has started.

I know many of you are checking your phones, email and facebook pages waiting to hear the good news…keep hanging in there and sending positive thoughts. J

We hope to be making the “big announcement” any day now.

Baby Update - February 18, 2010

Happy February! I think this has been a memorable month for everyone. I will be referring to February from here on out as the longest month in history. I’m going to guess our family and friends in West Virginia and Ohio will be remembering it more as the month that the snow never stopped. Whatever February has meant to you so far, hope it’s been a decent one!

Everything is as it should be on the baby front. Kaden is healthy and comfortable, Mommy is healthy and uncomfortable and Daddy is healthy and trying to survive. From here on out we go Army style and just hurry up and wait.

We officially passed the 37 week milestone, which is the point when the baby is considered full term and possible to deliver at any time. At our 37 week appointment the doctor showed us how the baby was laying and even showed us how to feel his head. I’m sure it’s a little wrong to be squeezing on your babies head, but we only did it once under medical supervision and it was really cool to feel! The Docs best guess is that Kaden will come out somewhere in the 7 ½ lb range, though he’s not letting us hold him to that. His actual words were somewhat to the effect of “big enough to be healthy, but no so big as to be mean”.

As of today we are at week 38 and 13 days away from his March 3 due date.

Some of you have been asking about visitors after the baby is born, how will we know when he’s here, when can we come see him, etc, so thought I would share with you guys what we know at this point.

We are planning to deliver at Presbyterian in Matthews

Our expected stay would be between 2-3 nights depending on how the delivery goes
Kaden will be born, bathed, etc all in the same room and with the exception of the brief period of time for circumcision, unless medically necessary he will not be leaving that room until we come home – ie he will not be in the nursery

It is generally 1 to 1.5 hours after his birth before the hospital allows visitors back in to the birthing suite. This gives time to clean everybody up, do necessary checks, get a bath and babies first meal. In the event of a c-section it could be a bit longer.
The labor and delivery floor is a secured floor, so they do require sign in and ID before they let you back on the floor.

The flu warnings are still in effect, so nobody under the age of 18 is allowed on the L&D floor for any reason

We are most definitely planning to have our cell phones, laptop, email, facebook and internet access so that we can do our best to share the great news with everyone as soon as we can. Having never done this before I’m not sure what “as soon as we can” means, so please be patient with us.

We have secured the services of highly trained professionals to help us acclimate to life as new parents. Granny (aka Grandma Carolyn) and Grandma Karen have volunteered to make the long trip and stay with us during the first few days to help us keep things afloat while we all adjust. We are also expecting a visit from Pappa John and Grandma Nee….provided they can dig their way out of WV.

Kiesel will be going to stay with the Lambiotte’s while we are at the hospital to ensure he is not without love and attention during our brief absence from home.

We are planning to make a trip to West Virginia in April, but dates are TBD based on when he arrives and when we feel comfortable making the trip with him. More details forthcoming on that trip.

We know that everyone is crazy excited to meet our little guy and we are excited to introduce him to all the people who are going to be part of his life….I mean really, can you have too much love? So whether we see you in the hospital, see you after we get home or somewhere in the future we look forward to it. Please just be patient with us as we feel our way through everything.

Baby Update - February 6, 2010

Happy winter weekend everyone! Doesn’t look like we are going to get any snow in Charlotte this weekend, just a lot of cold, damp rain.

As you can imagine we are counting down the days now until our little guy arrives. Less than a month away from his March 3, 2010 due date (please be on time, please be on time). Our last check up with the doctor was this past Tuesday and all reports are good. Kaden’s heart was beating at a healthy 155 beats per minute and he’s head down in the proper position to make his debut.

As far as mommy…well let’s just say we are all trying to maintain a sense of humor in the Marcum house. Everything is healthy and as it should be, it’s just dealing with all the “fun stuff” that comes with the last part of pregnancy. Daily challenges start with lopping out of bed and run the range of picking up dropped articles thru putting on shoes and everything in between. All part of the experience though, and most importantly temporary.

We have been busy this past week washing, organizing and putting away all of the amazing gifts we received at our baby shower last weekend. We have to express a huge Thank You to the Dooling’s (Aunt Cassie and Unlce Jose) for putting together Marcum Baby Bash 2010, then basically putting it together again when the weather messed up everything. Thank you, of course, to our friends and family for braving the highly unusual winter snow/ice storm to come out and celebrate with us. The weather didn’t let everyone come out that wanted to be there, but we felt the love just the same. Yes, if you are counting, this was our second baby shower and coincidentally the second time it’s been obstructed by record setting winter storms.

In addition to the great baby shower, we also had a visit with Aunt Amy. Aunt Amy braved the weather and flew down from Indianapolis to hang out for the weekend, attend the baby shower and bring lots of great gifts for her nephew. We are sorry we couldn’t provide more hospitable weather for her visit (and her flight home) but really enjoyed having her for the weekend. Kiesel was highly upset when she left, so don’t know what she’s going to do on the next visit about splitting her attention between Kiesel and Kaden.

Doctor's Visit # ??? - January 20, 2009

As of today we are officially 34 weeks, meaning only 6 weeks before we should be meeting our little guy. We are remaining optimistic that he will make an on-time arrival, but statistics and genetics are not in our favor, so let’s all hope and pray that he doesn’t keep us waiting too long.

Our last check up was yesterday and the doctor gave us two thumbs up for everything progressing as it should. Per “the baby book” he should be weighing in around 5 pounds or more at this point. They don’t give any sort of estimate on length, but Mommy’s at-capacity torso and sore ribs seem to be indicating he’s going to be taking after his Daddy in the height department. We can’t wait to see for ourselves!!

We are pleased to report that we have also been hard at work checking off the list of “to-do’s”. We have completed his room, attended breast feeding class, participated in a hospital tour and sat through 8 hours of child birth class. For any inquiring minds, child birth class was completed without incident. In fact, between the two of us, Lance was probably the better study and the better receiver of information. I would classify the course as TMI in a lot of cases and have chosen to block some of the information from my mind. J

Probably the biggest update is that we have settled on his name! It is officially decoupaged (thanks again Aunt Cassie!) and hanging above his crib in anticipation of his arrival.

Kaden John-Conley Marcum

Kaden is a name we selected after searching through multiple baby name websites and various other sources. It has origins in English, American and German depending on which sites you search and is typically cited to mean “a fighter or companion”. Kaden’s middle name is a multi-faceted tribute to both our families. John is his maternal Grandfather’s first name and Conley is the first name shared by his paternal Grandfather and his Uncle CJ. The hyphenated middle name and the tradition of being named after his grandparents is something he will have in common with his Uncle Shane(y) and his cousin Rhea.

Doctor's Visit #7 - December 2009

Merry Christmas everyone!!!

Wherever you are, we hope you are having a wonderful Christmas! We made a snowy trip home to WV last weekend and are back in Charlotte thinking of everyone today.

Our last doctor’s appointment was on Wednesday, December 23 (Happy Birthday Daddy to-be). It consisted of our normal check-in (weight, blood and Doppler to hear the heartbeat) and 3 hour glucose screening (not a stellar time). We are very pleased to report, that everything is still tracking perfectly and we are all healthy and developing as we should. Baby’s heartbeat and growth rate are right on track and I did not test positive for gestational diabetes.

During this visit, baby displayed his first signs of authority. When the nurse was applying the Doppler to my belly she hit right on the baby and he gave a pretty quick and hard kick to let her know. It actually caused the Doppler wand to move, and it sounded like someone was doing a microphone check. J As you can imagine, I am feeling more and more of those soccer style kicks every day.

For security reasons we won’t be disclosing my new fighting weight, but let’s just say that as of last night, we were able to inform the police and an APB has been put out for my belly button. Should you see my belly button or know where it might have gone, please let me know as it seems to have disappeared.

In other baby news we completed one awesome baby shower and the babies’ room is coming along nicely.

The plans for our baby shower in Elkins were almost thwarted by the massive snow storm that hit the night before, dumping around 2 feet of snow and prompting the governor to call a state of emergency. Fortunately we were able to postpone and dig ourselves out to have the shower only one day later. We want to thank everyone who was able to join us and a big THANK YOU to Kristie and Becky for coordinating everything. We finally broke down and disassembled Shaunna’s awesome diaper cake yesterday and all of the great clothes and gifts we received have been put away in babies’ room.

While we were in WV enjoying the snow and spending time with family and friends, Aunt Cassie was back in Charlotte working her fingers to the bone painting the babies room. When we left Charlotte the walls were a boring off-white, when we came back they were a beautiful blue color and you could see the characteristics of a little boys room starting to form. Thanks Cassie!! Inspired by Cassie’s efforts, Lance was able to assemble the crib and populate the room with the rest of the furniture. Bedding has been washed and it’s really looking like a baby’s room. Granny (aka Grandma Carolyn) is coming this weekend to help decorate and we should have pictures to share with everyone soon.

As we hit the home stretch (only 2 months and some change left to go) the Doctor’s visits will become more frequent. We will do our best to keep sending out the emails, but can’t promise you will get one with each visit. Don’t be afraid to call, or stop by and see us…as my tummy grows my pension for leaving the house gets a little smaller, so you’ll likely find us at home a little more these days. ;-)

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year everyone!!!

Doctor's Visit #5 - November 2009

Happy belated Thanksgiving all!

We had our last doctor’s appointment on 11/20 and everything checked out perfect. His heart rate was a perfect 148 beats per minute and sounding strong like always. The doctor has started measuring my belly on each trip and we are happy to say it’s right on target. We’ll skip the part about getting weighed in on the old school, slide the blocks over scale. (Let’s just say I’m back to my old college weight and leave it at that.)

Our little guy is growing by leaps and bounds at this point and continuing to be quite active. What previously felt like butterflies in the stomach is starting to take on a much stronger feeling. He’s even caught me off guard a few times resulting in what I’m sure are some interesting faces. He is also waking me up fairly regularly with his movements in the morning.

In the week before Thanksgiving Lance was able to feel him moving around for the first time; which was a pretty cool experience for both of us!

I’m proud to say that we are making excellent progress on our baby preparations. Thanks to the help our great friend Brian, who can now add “mover” to his resume, we have been able to get all the furniture moved around and/or cleared out. The rooms upstairs are really starting to take on their appropriate future state.

Our Thanksgiving trip to WV was great as always and extremely productive. The pool table is stored safely in my Mom’s basement, we got to spend at least a little time with a lot of loved ones, our freezer has fresh deer meat, and we checked off some big items on our need for baby list. A big thanks to my family in WV (Mom, Dad, Petey, John, Shaunna and Ma), as we now have furniture for the babies bedroom and a good base of baby items to get us going. And if all of those things weren’t enough to be thankful for this month, we got to talk to my little brother on Thanksgiving day!

Still no final decision on the baby’s name yet. We are finding ourselves at a little bit of a stand still on his first name, but we should be able to come to a conclusion soon. We’ve still got 3 months and at the current rate may need every bit of that time. ;-)